Looking good

To people who say that looks are not everything, you are right! 

But looks could mean a lot.

Why do I say this?

A few years ago, I had a severe acne breakout. It was so bad that one day a woman came to me and told me my face looks rather pitiful.

I could not find any justification for what she did. I know her intentions might be of concern or to preach something that could solve my problem but whatever she said did not register because I was so consumed by the thought that someone took notice of how bad it looked.

My confidence at that time was already low and her observation sank it further. I’ve had days when looking at the mirror stresses me out. I’ve had days when meeting friends did not seem appealing because I was too embarrassed. I’ve had days when my mood falters and leaves me in total disarray. I tried uplifting myself about how temporary my acne was but deep inside, I knew the scars were permanent. 

I’ve decided to consult Singapore specialists on skin and allergies. I did not budge about the costs because my confidence mattered more. I thought that money could be earned but my self-esteem can never be restored if my face continues to be hideously irritated. There, I’ve been prescribed pills, topical ointments and advised to change everything from hair products to facial wash.

The routine took more than six months. But after six months, there were no visible results. I took it upon myself to unload baggage of stress because I knew that medicines could not completely help me.

Call me crazy but in the name of looks, the biggest decision I had to make was to quit my job. It was a painful pill to swallow but it was the main cause of all my stress. I had to do it.

It’s so easy to say that looks are not everything especially when you have the looks and have had no problems with your skin, hair, etc. To some, they find it shallow to stress on looks. I used to do that too. But when I had severe acne, I say looks have a huge contribution to my self-esteem.

Other people wouldn’t notice how nice or polite you are just by the look of it. People have first impressions and when you look “pitiful” or hideously groomed, you just don’t look the part of someone neat and organized.

Nowadays, when people tell me they removed a mole or get their nose done, etc., I don’t see anything wrong with that. You do whatever pleases you. If that makes you more confident and adds value to how you see yourself, do it.